“I’m not doing enough” isn’t possible: Part I

I believe that we’re all doing the best we can within our current capacity, skill set and life circumstance. When there’s a gap between what we are doing and what our body or mind needs, it guides us to the healing work that needs support.

So often I’ve heard people bemoan their shortcomings in self-care. Here are some common self-criticisms.

“I know how much meditation helps me but I don’t know why I’m not doing it.”

“I don’t know why I’m eating that food again, even though I know it makes me sick.

“I’m not using any of the tools you’ve taught me, so maybe it’s not worth continuing.”

“I’m trying to hold my boundaries and say no but I slipped back into it again.”

I’m sure you have your own examples of things that you wish you’d do or not do.

You likely have a wish list of how you wish to eat, how often you wish to exercise, meditate, spend time in nature or whatever feels relevant to your well-being.

What do you do when you fall short of your own expectations? Do you berate yourself or respond with compassion?

I find the gap between what we intend to do and what we actually do highly fruitful for somatic exploration.